SATURDAY VIBE ,Marital Advise for Posterity ma ikwete, written by POg.
America, British and European MARITAL culture were founded and enshrined around "for better to stay and on faces of difficulties,each Spouse on it's way into another bottomless relationship " ,after all they don't pay bride Price ,they don't do igbankwu and the parents don't have a say in marriages which is why the marriage is always a manage and a bore .
Plus the system out there made it possible that women benefit abundantly from Divorce and broken homes with what they call alimony.
Forcing women to oot out without regret,it serve as palatable custom with them that you can marry and divorce to minimum of 6 times before your leg stopped carrying you ,even Children are at peace with the system,they have different fathers and mothers, they are at Peace with that as well , infact we have also borrowed itu ime Mkpuke and we coated it as Single Motherhood,arú na emezi,but we know it as despicable because we call a spade ,as that's the original name for it.
Today,we have Christiened Bastard Children to, Raised by Single parent,what a pathetic Analogy?.
Our African ladies are emulating such nauseating act of the absurd simply because they want to Ape the Developed West and they forgot that same people are morally dead, as far as Africa is concern,we have culture and rich orientation,we understand the metaphor of "For good and for worse ,till Death do us part "' but our Younger generations jumped into borrowed Martial Bondage,then anyi tólú na ukpó ya (We are swimming the Dellish Tide as we speak ). If you can't go through the stress of Jamb,don't bother seeking for admission into CITADEL,if you can't play the role of a wife , don't get married, it's not by force.
The days of our Fathers ,there was nothing like Divorce ,it wasn't even discussed or appeared on table of discuss,they stay married because they don't shop for evidence ,tagging ground for Divorce, nothing like he cheated on me as they look at the children and what separation will cause them ,talkless of outright divorce.
He cheated on you ,how about if he married 5 more wives,what will you call his night of different visitation?
Generation before advent of Social Media mine inclusive are enjoying families without the hysterical outrage which we borrowed from watching or following foreign culture on Social Media,even those who haven't had any dealing with Departure lounge of international airport are discussing life of white people,even though out there in White men's country, there's nothing like house wife or dependant on a man,they are all working class,they make money and non is billing another like we have in Africa.
In Africa,once you marry,you inherit stages of culminated purgatory called marital collateral.
It survived when you see marriage as growing of our own family,not as if one went to vacation or sightseeing, but as two Consenting adults from two different upbringing starting a New Life ,where they will begat children and raise them as offspring,the sacrifice is what will keep you.
Some will say how about if I die in such relationship,ge Nti Kam gwa gi ,if you die ,you go and rest, after all you can die on the road for no just cause and they can even kpai you na village without Provocation,so stop iyi anyi Egwu with matter of death,it come from anywhere and every where,but know it that once you fear dead ,it come crawling all around you ,but if you Kwechiri na iga Azu umu ,fa energi Nka ,be rest assured na onweghi ife na eme.
Once you start seeing Marriage as Final stage of your life ,you will see that you don't need to pick faults and flaws while waiting for ubochi ikpe ,so that if it doesn't work you go back home to your father's house ,unless you come from Broken home ,then we can say , it's generational curse and you are trying to empower what you inherited,which only a wise spouse will say "TUFIAKWA" that He or she can never work the Path the parents walked.
They work to make things fine ,there is never a Buffer wall without incursions from Wall Gecko,if you look with corrupt mind set ,you see the Putrid your heart wanted to see ,my old man will say "ife onye chó ka ófú "(You see what you search for ) ,once you start building reason for Divorce, definitely you will acoust divorce,just like one who anticipate Robbers because he or she believe that his area is prone to robbery,the person must get robbed.
If you begat Children,stop counting errors with the father or mother and start seeing good future for your offspring,but I know most of you have reprobate mind.
The Decadence started once the evolution called Internet,nay Social Media debuted in Nigeria ,it set the Senses of our ladies into frenzy.
They think social media is rewarding,little did they know that social media is meant to spread corruption world wide and Welu our morality gwo ji nmanu, note that for them to reward you ,you must be stupid and constituting morally nuisance,they pay most naked African ladies than creative and educational ones ,what they want is for you to join them and suffer the bloated future they cooked for selves,but na you go jump enter,so when your god ga akpógi ókú,devil will show him your log in credentials.
They see Lopsided equality in Union,where the man should take share on house chore ,some even want a Husband to employ Maid and Cook where she is practically doing nothing ..come to think of it ,no matter what a woman is doing ,she must prepare food for the Husband because if she don't , then the life of the Man is in jeopardy as the Cook can be bribed to unalive him. Plus ,if your maid if feeding your husband mouth,she can graduate and be feeding his urge as well ,but I digress.
Same crop of imaginary elegant without brain ladies refused to see that women pay house rent in same Europe they ape,pay Energy Bills ,pay for her Car Fuelling ,pay utilities and even stock Fridge and provide other household items,our own men can't see financial assistance from wives ,what our women labour to see is the benefiting part of it , especially monetary rewards,they forgot that what you plant is what you reap ,you can't be lazy but hoping to reap bountifully,ódiró possible.
Ladies got into marriage with Diary for taking notes of how the Man looked at her with disdain or looked at the Things she dislike with Passion ,how the relationship is not made in Heaven according to her standard of HEAVEN,and how the man refuses to accept her as she is which include her inability to Cook good food ,sweep and clean house, do laundry,while she refused to accept the man as he is ,She want him to be Angelic made for her ,even When she is totally unworthy.
What do you bring to the table is just for African women,as the CAUCASIANS our Women are aping brought so many great things to the Table and to the Bed as well,ours brought only things to the Bed.
Some of the Myopic ones will say "I am beautiful" without asking self ,what does her beauty brought into that marriage?
Beauty shall be coated with motherhood material,so you can stay married, despise this and ikaba Nka ,ighóta ije .
A Newly married girl repose confidence on unmarried and Divorced as friends and advisers,which makes one to Wonder what she hope to get from such mundane toxic Brain.
Imagine generation ife na eme na isi are now masquerading as parents,how will the children they raise cope as parents? Uwa emebigo .
They refused to stay in marriage and grow good family,they simply want an ATM man with the password tucked in her hand ,instead of a Husband who is the head of that Home,who will go the distance in protecting the family ,they want a Man who must be Sex machine,Lover boy that is romantic ,then a very Rich Spender ,even when she has nothing attached to her head , not talking about Attachment , Weavon she attached which the Cost is above the sense in her skull.
As we move on from this morning Marital Hot Tea ,may I remind you ,you can't take a trophy 🏆 for getting divorce, before you get married,think deep if you can stay married,some went into marriage ka agbanahú Poverty,they see it as transit while waiting for Odogwu, don't forget that all Odogwu di Egwu and adighi Eji Odogwu nche , plus if you want an Odogwu jekwo ke aji na Ume to wrestle his stamina because ibú Odogwu bu a hard nut to crack and maintain,and imaro ife Eji ejikwa Odogwu, don't forget,if you dive into a Swimming pool you didn't watch the depth,you might end up crying ogbúó múó, having said the above ,I am walking away from where I spent the night which I told them that I went to Night Vigil, though they don't understand the Context of the Vigil,but some programs covers multiple of inquiry.
I remain Mkpisi Ndi Egede na ede with precision and provocation, Last Born Mpa Nnukwu, Nwa Chukwu ku na Aka na ónwu agaghi egbunwu ya, Paracetamol Ndi Politics, Political analyst with feathers, Media Consultant with Onyokometer and Útali Ndi Nsó.
Call me Pen 🖊️ of the gods and I have one bottle of Sapere water for you .
Mazi Odera POg JP peeping at gods as they consumate CONJUGAL Bliss na Ukwu ugiri ,while standing on anthill.