SENDING CHILDREN ABROAD,THE Whispers of Ndi Egede , written by Last Born Mpa Nnukwu.
I went on a visit with Men of my Generation,my mates and of circle,we went to console and Condole one of our own who lost the Wife,I ended up mourning the life of Men,maka there's this Igbo parlance that provide "Uzu amaro agbu Ogene ,nee Egbe anya na Ódú"(A blacksmith that can't forge a gong, should look at the tail of a Kite).
Mbekwu Nwa aniga asked the children,how many times will any of them be afflicted and be wary ,worried and cautious,some of them opted for couple of times but one said he won't wait for it to happen to him, that he can learn once he saw it happen to other's,he will learn the lesson.
moving on..
The Man is a Billionaire and all his Kids are spread abroad,both in Canada, America, LONDON and Europe,he visit them once in a while, but the wife is residing with them or junketing from country to country of the Children with the pleasure of the Husband, infact she is living permanently abroad, while the man is living as Nwa Oseaka gbaa aka Nwa .
Note ,that the Wife wants the good things of life ,not jointly with the Husband and the Man who ran the excruciating race is forgotten with prejudice.
Though some will say ,a man's dream is for the children to be greater,but never to be abandoned when he is weak and old,when he should be enjoying the benefits of raising a family,then he will die of obi mgbawa.
The pains is that the Man who sent all his children abroad for a better life ,is home alone,he has Restaurant that cook Soups and Stew for him and he store it in Freezer,then be warming it periodically and baking swallow to down the Soup,then boil rice and use the Stew for balancing the ascension at the Age where he should be asleep and somebody will prepare snacks or fresh juice waiting for him to wake up and smile that he has children. When he should be on diet because of his age and health,that was when he will enter suffering part 2 and I say GOD FORBID,as I will threat the Anomaly without favor.
I looked at the Man griveing over the death of the wife ,who has not served her place as a wife for a long time ,and at her death,the Man was left alone at Home as an OSTRACIZE,yes ,he OSTRACIZE self thinking he is building a better life for the Children,the children turn out to serve him a sour soup.
Imagine at above 60 years of age, one will be forced to act as Childless ,wifeless man which is self made because the Man decided to better the life of the children and allowed the wife to rush out and attend to the children,while he is home alone when he NEEDS consolation the most. Read my Lips ,nzusia Nwa ,the Nwa must not will ,but must zuam or I make alternate retirement plans.
I wept because at that age ,he was home alone ,how about something Evil happens to him at night? Who shall run to his rescue?.
How about he need medical attention or medical gbata gbata, what then ,who shall gbata or aid him?
Old age is not respecter of status symbol,it can come and slay man like trash , which if there should be intervention,a solution will be provided and life saved or extended.
This made me to think of my friends,men who groove with me ,they all have families residing abroad and promoting the status symbol,they forgot that the wife will naturally join them with one flimsy excuse and you will be home alone ,maybe with Driver or maid ,but no member of your family.
You have no love ,no care ,no worries from the family that took away your youthfulness. Just think if you are in the man's shoe.
If you truly want to send your children abroad, just less than 30% ,so that your Old age shall not be filled with regrets.
In alternative,if your Children prefer to naturalize overseas with a good life ,your wife JOINED them because she is taking care of them as House maid or retired in STYLE,brother go and marry somebody that will take care of you ,just know you have lost your entire generation,even if you die tomorrow,they won't come back to manage your Estate, rather they will sale them off and move back to place of easy life. Agburu gi emechigo,as people will be narrating stories about one great man who lived there,but lost all his family to Ndiocha.
That's one of the reason why you should start planning your future with immediate effect,if they plan for their Future and having your wealth as back up plan, simply counter by planning for a new family,they can keep the life overseas while you have brand new Life down here,they may egg you on to move with them overseas,but remember oburó onye kaba nka ,ókuba mmimi..ohabu onye kaba nka ,ógbaba Lagos awala awala.
Children,you are residing overseas at expense of your Father, but your Father is home alone without Love or care and mostly,none of you will provide him a second wife to take care of him as Family at older age ,you think you are making MONEY overseas? Which is selfish,as the money is not for your dying Father,but your own family, excluding your Father. The best you do for the Man who suffered and gave you the life you are living,is for periodically you send him Kobo na afu and one out modelled Wears ,and in your mind ,you have gbapue na Ezi imi (You have pierced the Nose of a Pig).
Read my Lips ,you are perfectly wuked to be euphemistic with words.
How about if the Man is struggling to Mop the house or cook his food or run his bath and slip or fall ,who aids him back in Nigeria? May be after he may have been choked with Vomit,you can send MONEY and ask whosoever that care to take him to best Hospital, right? and they will be handling him as extortion Article while you gallivant as provider of Funds.
If you the children are determined to reside overseas,just marry him a new wife, not maid or Servants,he didn't raise you with servants and left you alone,he was there with you with all his muscles just to make sure you survive.
Read my Lips,if you refuse to relocate back home after making life better and you left the Old man alone ,the man should marry another wife without consulting any of you and read my Lips ,if I am in his shoe,I will disinherit all of you and adopt branch new family that will be by my side at old age ,infact I will eraze your record from my anals and expunge your history from my weak mind .
I can get any young family,not caring who began them.
The reason I took care of you with my youth is for you to take care of me at old age ,but if you abandon me ,be rest assured,I will expunge your history from my mind and severe your existence from my history,itam aru na isi asoghi ntutu,agam ata gi na ike nsi ma asoghi nsi..
I Mazi Odera Pog JP and I come with breaking heart on the menopause of Men. We have tradition,Nna zua Nwa ,Nwa azua Nna ,not to abandon him for greener pasture.