MOTHER'S AND MOTHER INLAWS, the Twist of the Tales by Obele Nwa Mpa Nnukwu.
As I watched a home movie on Channel 11 on GOTV (Igbo station for Igbo Movies only) centered around Mother inlaw Versus mother living with the family and it ended tragically.
Because we in Lagos are quarantined In a well deserved 24 Hours curfew, that was when the message came to me as Mkpisi and my Pen was dripping ink, so I have to do what I got to do, now kindly come with me as we enter a Zone that many may not like especially mothers, I know it may be hard on some but amakajo, Obu Maka odimma(No matter the irks, it's just for a better future) ... Dislike my presentation but accept it as the acceptable Dinge from Ndi Egede..
I have since stopped using euphemism or sugar Coated words while addressing my people, I speak it Raw, so that it will meander the stubbornness embedded in our souls, so if I sound like an Ass, just know I am doing the duties Ndi Egede kenyerum(it's assigned duties from Ndi Egede) .
A Mother will go to her married Son's house, not on a visit but as a live in, is it to hold torch when he wants to climb the Wife or to hear the moaning that followed? .. Same with mother inlaw who will abandon her husband in the village and migrate to her daughters house as her new place of domicile..as a monitoring spirit or as what?.
Now come with me please, as I come in peace with element of pieces , so we can brain storm and provide redemption and allow our Children to marry in peace..Most divorce this days are caused by interfering parents, because when both Children were doing Nsori, they did not divorce because there was nobody to ignite Nsogbu for them, but once they got married, families will step in with assunder.
First, I have Girls and Boys grown extremely up and ripe for marriage, so one day my wife leave me for 2 months and relocate to our daughter's house as what kwanu?.. Well, if she come back, she will meet a brand new family with brand New wives that held brief for her and when she come back, she will join queue from the back, after all Eze pua, Eze anochie (When a king leaves his seat on any occasion another king steps into it, because another King can stand while there is empty chair) .
As a mother your lot is not to go to your daughter's house and become an Epidemic that ruins the marriage, your place is not with your daughter but with your Husband..
If your house is not peaceful enough, that is your cross and not your daughters, so the way you lay your Bed, is same way you sleep on it.
Stop creating unnecessary hardship for your daughter and the Husband, you gave birth to her, no doubt, but she has grown and you gave her out to start her own family, so why perch unto her like Fly and dead body?..Don't tell me you want to guide her, so she don't make mistakes, you didn't teach her how to DO the thing, she just learn it without a teacher, so she can learn how to manage her life as a Mother.
You wasn't with her in School, she learn along with her mates, so gerraout from her life and let her build it from her experience,ogini di?..
I know your argument is genuine that you have to enjoy your Labour of raising her, but let me ask you, is your own mother and that of your Husband living with you?.
While you are with them, you always side your daughter, you forget she stopped being your daughter the day you gave her out officially, she became a wife and another Mother accepted her with backing of Law and that is why she is Mother in law..
Allow them to enjoy marriage, maybe you think your presence will protect her, but lookia, your presence only aggravated the situation, because you always find a way it will favor your own and the mother of the Boy with his Sisters who also are women will have his back and trouble will have unlimited edition.
Mother, we know He is your son and you carried him in your womb for donkey years and he sucked your breast, read my Lips.. Your breast has expired and that is why he choose official Breast with NAFDAC that she will be suckling, the difference again is that your son can never sleep on same Bed with you, but he can sleep Naked with the Lady and that Lady can give your son a baby and everybody including your enemies will say.. CONGRATULATIONS and mean it, but if you carry his Baby.. Scratch it.. or sleeping on same Bed with him, not even talking of doing the DO, thunder will seperate you from this life and people will spit in disgust when your name is mentioned..
So that is enough to tell you that your influence in his life has gotten to Era of "E DON DO" .. stay out of his life, so he can stay on top of his marriage, if you think he is not matured to be married, then don't allow him to get married.. Not after marriage, you become infant de terrible to the marriage, you may have ruined your husband, but leave your son and his family, so that God will allow you to stay in Hell, but if you continue scattering your Children marriage, even Hell fire will reject you and God will put you in one planet alone with Molecules..
Boy, you are a big boy, but your mother still control you in your own family, it simply means you are an Idiot who refused to grow,.. Yes, she gave birth to you, yes she carried you in her womb... So why separate from her?.. Why not start climbing her to show you Love her?.. Ibu ezigbo Nmeeee...
What you owe her is to give her a comfortable life in her Husband house, unless she is the type that got sacked from marriage, then you give her life any other place outside your own marriage..
Your own mother is not entitled to omugwo of your baby, she can only go to her own daughters omugwo, but any other thing outside that is home invasion of other family..
Don't allow mothers to control you by using the threat of nursing you, because somebody nursed her and you want to nurse another, if anybody that was nursed were held to such ungrowth Choke, your grand MA will still be living with your mother..
She should go and tend to her Husband or her house, if she is lonely, get her a house help,especially if her presence is not mutually accepted.
Girl, you are married and your Mummy wants to stay with you and you allowed her, ibu ezigbo mpama, because you simply wants to make your Husband Minority in his house...
That house is where you have family, even your Sibblings are not part and shouldn't be part of it... Unless you want to tell me that you took your Sibblings with you through school, they lived with you, bath with you and do runs with you, if they survived that period, they should be use to it.. Just clear your house of visitors which they all are, so you can enjoy a God filled marriage... If your Mother lives with you, read my Lips, your Husband must be coming back late and atimes not at all , it is nature, because he is always seeing self as Minority in his house and he wants to stay out and mingle with peace of mind.
Fathers , if your wife goes to Omugwo and stay 2 Months, just hire a very Fine Calabar Girl that will be looking after you, just incase you fall sick at night.. That will also make you wish your wife stay forever wherever she is, then agbasia OSO, aguo mile..Make sure somebody send her the gossip and see how fast she will come back home, tupu ife mmadu agho nke onye Ozo..
Let's allow our Children to raise a family without us, we raised them to be independent and please if you don't like my opinion, just start liking it because if you come around me and say pim, agwom gi ji Nmanu without apologies..
Mazi Odera POg JP strolling along Nnobi - Obiaja heading to ALOR to ask the gods out there who is the Igwe as they have crowned about 7 Men Igwe and all are manifesting the Powers of Igwe ALOR..
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