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 Mazi Odera POg JP to IGBO SPINSTERS on Marriage, READ ME..

Merry Christmas in few drops, but the objective of this missive is not felicitations nor pleasantries, it is to see how to curb the mistakes of our Youths which after the fact affects incoming Children.

I am not writing to be loved or to impress you with writing skill or make you quake with the coinage of words, I come because things has fallen seriously apart and the Center can't hold again, making me to remember the thesis of Ekwughi ekwu melu Okenye, ma ekwue anughi melu Nwata.

Sure this Christmas many Boys are getting married to many Girls and you wish to be them after all they are your age mate or you senior them, but both of you are sleeping on different world, even if on same bed but diverse dreams while asleep, so the competition is good but not combatant,

 Some people are created with a life span of 50 and while they live, everything falls into right places for them in twenties, so by the time they hit mid life, they have achieved that which they came to do in life and by that 50, they die but you may be created to Last double of what he lived.. Let me illustrate here.

 If you and your brother or friend buys a Cooking Gas 12.5KG at same time, the same place, weighted same to make sure it is accurately filled.

Then you are using yours for breakfast, lunch and Dinner, but your Brother is using his for everything including helping neighbours who begged to finish cooking, bake Garri, cook Beans and boil Water to bath,I can bet you that his own Gas will finish midway while yours is still acting as a Virgin.

Using MTN, we both are recharging the credit at same time, those who make call like me will exhaust thier credit in few days while others lingers.

That is same with life, some people are meant to live with speed and as an Igbo adage provides, ome Ngwa Ngwa na Ana Ngwa Ngwa (one who does things in a haste goes home in a haste), same with life span of Nkwu that produces Nkwu Enu, it produces Wine in tickles but Ngwo produces her own Wine like Pure Water, and within Year the Ngwo tree will dry up but Nkwu stays for generations.

Son, if you are not ready for marriage, do not Marry.

Being ready is not when your Nadike Ogbogu start invasion of her sanctuary, that is illusion, But when you have Financial Stability to take care of a Woman and Children. 

Most times your Mother will be shouting, crying, cajoling that she wants a grand Child, she will say give me a grand Child or I die.

Listen to me, she have lived her life in full, she had you and should allow you to use the current dictate to live your own version.

 In her Days, Children do not pay one tenth of the Ransom we pay this days as School fees and they eat what is available but today the choices are like Robbery. 

Most school fees are higher than the parents salaries put together, the house keeping is higher than what can be used to feed Communities during the days, so you have to adapt with the current philosophy of "Cut your Coat according to your Cloth and NEVER ACCORDING to your Size".

Friends will hasten you that they will support your Igba Nkwu and White wedding which is unnecessary Evil, they mean well but how about daily stipend that you will be dropping for your family?.

May be your friends will also be doing that for you, Don't bank on the promise of a spinster who wants to be a wife, she will promise to endure but after wedding, she will unleash Hell on you and you will have white Hairs which is not Grey hair but punishment hair, all over you.

I am in a good Mood this morning and will teach you what your fathers can't, not because he doesn't know it but for the fears of the fire it will ignite at home, for me I am LAST BORN MPA NNUKWU and fighting gives me Vitamin.. Woman is anglicanized version of WOE MAN.. like them or not they are created to be WOE unto Man and that was why even God rebelled when he said "He who finds a wife, findeth a good thing", he stopped giving Man wife after the only one he gave ADAM right from his ribs made ADAM to spar with God and God regretted creating Man.

Adam was good with God, but when WOE Man were given to him, he fell apart, so don't think you have wherewithal to manage them and keep them sequestered, it is just grace, if woman can ghukpo Sampson Anya, who are you?. 

If Woman can send General Abacha Home  to meet Devil, who are you?. 

If a Woman can keep Britain who conquered the world under slavery, who are you?.

There is no formula that works in marriage, it works for your Father because he married your Mum, and you are married to another person, so your own formula will be self made. But do not ever live above your income or you die 30 years before your wife.

When you wants to marry, do not allow your wife to determine what should be done, let your savings or income educate you on what to spend and do not forget that expense starts after marriage.

Girl, you truly want a Man who is Rich, not a womanizer, respects you, caring and help you with house chore.Well, it is your heart desire but if you ask me. Kindly wait a bit more as the Machine that is molding such has problems with the MOLD.

Hear me, your character keeps a Man at home or outside.

A Man may propose marriage to you but your past life will come to haunt you as it may decide with your previous RUNS history that you are not a Wife material.

You want a Rich man, but do you have a rich attitude to merit such a life? Or the only good thing you bring to the marriage is good SEX?. 

if what make a marriage good is Sex, why should a man bother with only you where as he has the money to be changing you same way many girl change the make up they wear everyday.

Many of you can say "I am a graduate" but of what?,many are graduate of Good Sex, if Sex is taking away from you, you are empty, no business sense, no management sense, no Family brain, the only thing you know next is GIVE ME MONEY, may be to buy this and that, never even to start a business because the Husband is Rich and therefore an ATM, my Dear everyman needs a Woman who has brain not only VAGINA, who can manage a house, not one who only can manage her look.

You want the best thing of life, but have no Kobo you work out yourself, not talking about the one given to you by another Man after Sex, but the one you earn as wages or income from a Venture.

Lady, you want exotic Igba Nkwu so you can impress your friends and relations, have you ever wondered how it will be thaf after wedding to feed becomes a problem?

Try and encourage your spouse to save, marriage is determined by the milage nor the showmanship.

Even if your parents want eleborate wedding, let them not start with yours, they can mark 30,24,70 years or marriage the way they want it, you just manage to have a wedding that won't tear the pockets and you resort to sleeping around just to make ends meet or make your Husband hostile because when a Man's business is not doing well, he resort to the use of his FIST, to avoid Weta.

Boy, your inlaws want a superlative banquet to show the daughter married a Rich Man, just leave the daughter for them and look for a Wife not a burden, even if your inlaws vote to sponsor your wedding, do not ever accept because they are building for you a Bondage where they determine how many times you sleep with your wife, when to make love to thier daughter who they disowned and you own (The day they signed marriage register where the name was changed to your Surname was the day they wash hands off the marriage).

If what you have for marriage is 10K, don't ever work on 11K because your friends can help, just plan an 8K wedding the balance will be for unforeseen.

Parents allow your children to enjoy marriage, especially Mothers who wants to excert authority on Daughters house, don't forget that your Son will also marry and will you enjoy if your mother inlaw Lord's over your own house?

Let them be, let them practice marriage thier own way, stop engineering evil into it.