Outside Day dreaming of Invigorated NIGERIA,let's move to Family Dynamics..by POg.

Many Marriages started to crumble Because we aborted Divine ordinances meant for our Clan, and clinge to imported dissection of the Western World where Marriage is just like Trading with SUPER STORES,where if you find defect from merchandise, you return for a Full or part refund, or you dislike the merchandise for no reason you return same for money back which is acceptable norm in the West but not in Africa,we have a policy of "No refund of money after payment" and it works for us .

Outside the shores of Alaigbo,you can get married just by impregnating a Lady,you don't even need a Bride price talkless of the Prize that goes with it because you don't need parents 9r family blessings.

So you get wife as long as she agrees to answer one or she brought to you a child that she claim is yours and which you can't ascertain,but right in Alaigbo,even when a girl gets pregnant for you and bear you child, tradition did not recognize you as the father and can never allow you to have the Child even when you pay the requisite dowry.

It's our tradition and it stands.

What I want to frown at is the myopic and Jaundiced mindset with Ndigbo, come with me ,this will be brief because I see that in this nation,what we need is not sound reasoning,but Sound Mumbo jumbo which I am not ready for ,but let's move ..

In your traditional Wedding, your Father or his choosing surrogate will pour out Palm Wine which is the only Communion allowed by tradition to bind the two different families and individuals as one,they gave the girl the wine in a Cup which she will cover with her hand or white Hanky,then she will dance around or stroll around in search of the Man who both of them have been CONJUGATING before the Event,but for the consent of both families,it was agreed that tradition should come to play as she pretend to be searching even when they wore TOMATCH cloth,that's ozuzo nne Nkita.

After dancing and searching for the UNLOST man ,she found him , knelt down ,sip off the cup ,which many Girls will simply pretend by just bringing the Cup to her lips and hand same over to the Man ,who will inturn take the Cup instead to drink the wine to cement the marriage,He will throw it away or give it to another person and dance back to the Father of the Bride with the Cup for his blessings .

The reason for throwing away the sacred ordinance of showing your parents,Umunna and well wishers your chosen betrothed is that the Church made us to believe that it's Satanic and that enemies may Poison you and the Husband,but come with me ..

Do you think enemies will waste Poison waiting to poison the drink through your Father that poured it or through the Fiancee that Covered same with her Palm or White Hanky or the relations of either party ?.

Well they may ,but do you think they won't poison the larger food you shared,the Traditional Cake (New intervention for money making ,but absurd During traditional wedding we mix English Cake to it ), and the General Merriment,if you believe they will poison the drink and not other Things,then you are sick in your Brain.

Do you think they won't get you while dancing and waiting to be spread with Money most people soaked in some shrine and targeting your face ,head or the stomach of the Wife?.. moving on..

Why do churches allowed Cake to be displayed in the open,then cut in the Open,the couple feed each other in the Open without same fears of Poison that they brandished for Traditional weddings? Na our sense no well ..

During the feeding of Cake in the Hall ,the man also feed the wife with Wine (Church won't Advise you to throw the Cake or drink away ,since it's chemical induced and manufactured by one Company Outside the shores of Africa,which is Cancer friendly),don't we think that the same wine we abhorred during traditional wedding can be poisoned during white wedding?.

Finally,I want to assure you since you threw away the traditional wine ,you did not get the blessings of your father's house , which was the reason it is always held in your father's village and family house,never in a hotel or town hall ,the gods of the Land came to witness.

That is why marriages failed before it even started, and ana apatch ona elick ,which will last just for sometime,just know you ain't married you are just making out.

We should know that even JESUS Said "Give to Ceaser what belongs to him "and traditional wedding is tradition that gives you away ,if by Choice you don't like it ,just follow the Man home and forget all the money guzzling expense that we shroud under traditional wedding,where a man Spend Millions and did not get the blessings Because he think through the Anus, there is Always blessings behind many ordinances,but the Church will rather abolish it and Yoke on you the ones they control.

If you did that mistake, it's not me that will correct it, don't allow your children or siblings to so same.

I am Mazi Odera POg JP, Mkpisi Ndi Egede, Minority Opinion writer na South East, Obele Nwa Mpa Nnukwu, Nwa Chukwu Ku na aka na onwu agaghi egbunwu ya .