Choices differ which was why Ndigbo have UCHE BU AKPA as a name, which translate as, Mind is a bag, one carries his or hers Alone.
The method one applies training his Children is similar to the one we apply managing Marriages, there is no known formula that works because we married different type of person , just do it, after all what you sow is what one reap at dawn.
During the days of Yore, there is nothing like Boarding School, then later it came to be and it was to afford the Children ample time to study along with his peers, then Girls have theirs, boys also have theirs but in most schools, the girls always finds a way to the Boys Dormitory and Boys same thing, and sneaking out of the School at weekends, no matter how secured the schools is becomes a task like PRISON BREAK.
Breaking it down into today's Schools, most parents prefer to get rid of the Children, so that the Mother will have enough time to Press her phone, join other Big ladies, Flex along, drive the Husband Car or hers and in the Process meet any of this Guy's that Smoke Mkpuru Mmiri and both of them will Ride self like Mkpuru Mmiri, but I am not about to preach Morals because it's not me that will depopulate Hell and same way many Husbands don't know that the wife is a Freelance Gift is same way they don't know their Children have lost track and or living in Hell, that their house Maid is living in Bondage because the Man goes out early and come back late and Madam will Posion his mind on what goes around, and when Men came back just like Adam came back and EVE announce to him that God is Lier, that the Fruit God ask them not to eat is lies, that she ate the APPLE with Serpent and it was wonderful and Nutritious, so the Busy doing Crap of a Husband join the Wife and they ATE the Apple as if the creator who said "DON'T LOOK AT IT, DON'T TOUCH IT AND NEVER EAT IT" is mad, well they ate it and were driven away from Everlasting into hustling and burstling.
Same thing with most Men, when you come back you act on the script Madam wrote or she will cry, Nnam you are an idiot, yes you heard me, God made her a a helper, so she make report, you take your time on it.
Many parents never observe the Children both the day students or the one they bundle out into Boarding school, which many of them joined Cults, Lesbianism, Homosexuality.. Sure you can't follow them like flies against excrete but try as a Father to visit them at School both day, Boarding, get the teachers to be your friend by greasing palms and they will be reporting the activities of your Ward to you and when you think they are going astray, you yank him or her away from that path that leads to perdition.
Like I said at the beginning, life is a choice, all my Kids where Born Overseas but at Middle School which Nigeria calls Secondary Schools, that is when Kids are in TEENS (THIRTEEN, FOURTEEN, FIFTEEN, SIXTEEN, SEVENTEEN, EIGHTEEN, NINETEEN) and at that age the Adrenaline is Top Notch, so if you can't place them on right path, just like Farmers will place Yam Tendon on a Pole for it to twist self round it and become prosperous, if you did not align it right, it will fold on the ground and the Yam will have Retarded growth.
While my Kids are of Age, I planned and bring all of us back to Nigeria.. It would've afforded me time to Flex if I have send them home and continue living abroad under the guise that I am struggling to make money for them, but knowing that Nkita Nwanyi Zuru na Ata Akwa Okuko, I said to self, this is the reason I am the head, I can't seperate self from the rest, so we came back and thank God, my first Daughter was rushed into Convent school and the brand of Immorality she saw there, she refused to stay there instead she will be at home doing nothing than what she saw daily in that Religious setting that turned to Soddom.
Well she changed School to Day where it afford me and the Mother opportunities to monitor them, both going and coming..
When they entered Universities our job was done, but that doesn't stop me from paying unscheduled visit to them, just to let them know that I am doing my fatherly Job, but if any felt smarter and goes astray, my job then is to stand erect and beat my Chest and say "I did my part and whatever ill comes later wasn't my fault after all a child that is destined to die, must die even if the Mother is carrying her in her hand",the question will be, did you parent him or her or you ship them out to boarding, so there will be chance for you to enjoy life, that they disintegrate in mid life is not your business but Karmaric laws provides that "What you sow is what you reap", at old age those Wild Children will ship you to boring life, either they kept you at far away place out of their reach, they will give you dry bread to eat, but the attention is not existent, so you will enjoy the agonies they went through and then you will be moaning that your Children abandoned you, but you started the race of abandonment when you left them when they needed parenting, it was our abandoned Kids that started this Yahoo and Mkpuru Mmiri dread, so choose you this days what you want for your family, you can ship them to BOREDOM or call it Burden or kwanu the Euphemism we all use BOARDING School but the Hard truth is that, you should take care of your Children, the Teachers have their own Children they are taking care off and you want to ship yours to them okwaya?.
Well some went through Boarding and came out right, but many went through it and it bored them into Akarogheri.
Friends, I am not saying you shouldn't give self freedom by shipping all your kids away under the guise of Boarding, but from what we have been reading about how kids are turned into harden Criminals, Cultist, Ritualist, Homosexual, Lesbians, bi-sexual and the beat goes on.. When you are getting Older you will be wondering who you offended that turned your kids into wayward.. My dear, nobody did only you used them as sacrificial lambs and pay back was a bit late.
Those your Children in Universities, when was the last time you paid them visit? What are the phone numbers of their Class mates that you can call if the number is not going? I don't mean his or her Gang member that can always defend him or her but a Class mate you met while you visit who can tell you the last time he or her attended Class.
How about her Lodge mates who can attest that she is not married in school but single at home and that she is not UBER "'Call me for your waist services".
Your Daughter came back from school with Dresses that is more in Numbers that boutique and you said nothing, some dress like Akwuna emelu Nchobe right in your face, you smile like ezigbo idiot, who blame you, your Girl is a Big girl or she doesn't listen to you again.. You are ezigbote Idiot, if he or she stopped listening, call your relations and tell them to caution him or her and if that didn't work, openly wash your hands away and remove him or her from your testimonials.. That way Heaven won't hold you responsible for the life that followed.
Your son came back from school and Richer than life and you agree he is doing one cool Business or another, after all he is doing good and relieved you of Financial investitures.. My Fren, you just signed a warrant that recognized your family as Sacrifices and surely it comes in batches.
Have a great week that leads us to Christmas and other activities including festivities that brings lots of eating and drinking, but watch out for those who walk around with Poison waiting for Victims.
I am Last Born Mpa Nnukwu (LBMN), MINORITY OPINION WRITER NA SOUTH EAST (MOWNSE), Nwa Chukwu ku na Aka na onwu agaghi egbunwu ya (NCKNA), Mkpisi Ndi Egede (MNE), Anu Ana agba Egbe, ona eme Love (AAAEOEL), Special Adviser to the Governor on Good Governance (SAGG UNPAID), PAIN OF POLITICIANS (POP), DIBIA ONU IKE ADIGHI AGBALU EKPERIMA AFA (DOI) and I come in peace.
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