Today is Father's day in Anglican Communion World wide, and as a Father and Over Proud Anglican who is never shy to parade his Ekpere na Abu with Swag, I present to us a blessed Father's day, know it before hand that, orurum inye gi ya Maka na abum JP (I have the audacity to wish it or render same because I am JP) .
A Father is not He that can spray around the Semen generated from his Scrotum or Testicle..
That is just like Blood Donor, which anybody can donate, but to be a Father takes a Matured mind, purified soul, sacrificial self and like the THEME of Anglican Fatherhood presents ANYI BU IDE JI UNO (WE ARE THE PILLARS HOLDING THE HOUSE) .
Pillars are not beautiful to behold, they are tucked deep into the Earth, wired with Rods, Mesh, then choked with Cement mixed with water and stones .. Carrying on perpetuity the burden of the structure without thanks and appreciation of any kind.
Come with me, hold the Helm of my shirt gently, come with measured step as we examine the Pillar and the Context within the contest..
The Depth they Dug the Earth to enforce the Pillar is same resolve they force a Man to Wake up at night with headache, belly ache and the wife will ask him what is the problem and he will say, nothing or he will say slight Headache.
When a man admit of slight headache, just know that his head is splitting in half, but the nature of his job as the Pillar is taking effect.
Let me say before hand that some men are not half qualified to be called Father's, they are mistake to be called a Man, that they have an Organ that looks masquline doesn't give them the qualification to be called father, they may have contributed to the forming of the baby, but that is not what make one a father, I won't digress to address the qualifications today, because we are celebrating no admonishing..
A man will take all he enjoyed which is freedom and happiness with friends, but because he wants to be a Pillar and not a Pole, he will jejely leave his comfort zone , go and marry a woman who comes bearing assunder including making sure that all your friends are chased away without throwing punches..
Your brothers are heard off and not seen again around you or your house, your parents comes on a visit and no longer to stay..
While the vacuum that created, she replaced with her own siblings, parents and her friends now takes your house as refuge, but imichalu ino Maka (You swallow the spittle) Pillars don't quake or the house will be in ruins,this can be discussed another time as well, so it won't spoil the day for us as we move on..
The added Cement makes you to start paying Bills from the inlaws and siblings, then also pay the ones close to you, pay the ones of numerous relations we have all over the place and which manifest whenever Nwoke bidolu igwute Sikky..
That's when you will know that everybody is related to you especially from your maternal Side, which also reinforced the saying I uses in such situation.. If you fail, you fail alone, because Poverty has no relation, but suceed and you suceed with inherited problem of all, that's when you suceed with all and everybody addresses you as Nwannem..
Then you start building a family, out of the Babies you have carried all your life in your waist, you acted with the saying "There is Love in sharing" you give your wife may be one or two of what you have over 90, then she think she have created world again, forgetting that the Husband is the carrier of those Seeds and if she doubt it, she should know that while she is pregnant, that the same Husband can also impregnate 30 more ladies and still walk about as if he is not carrying a severe pain...
Anyway, I can't explain to women that Men should be appreciated for all we carry and the pains we pass through while trying to transfer that Baby to Her, after all you can never see a man smiling while trying to make a Baby or at the point he is about to transfer, his face is always dark with pains and contour , but we don't shout like women, but it doesn't mean we are not in harder Labour,, so Dear Man, it is our nature to endure and move on.
You pay Hospital Bills, call your friends to come that you have a new Baby, then you host them from your pocket and when they are leaving they will give the Monetary reward to the Vendor instead of Uzu na onwe ya, and we don't worry, not because it is right, but because we are the Pillars while our wives are the Fanciful part of the Edifice.
A Child is Sick and the man developed BP trying to source and raise fund to take care of the sick and healthy, but what we get is that mischievous song from women.. "Isi waba Nwa obu Nne ya oooo, Nne eeee,, Nne" ...
Sure the mother will administer the drugs, but somebody made it to be around and available , somebody walked self Rag to make sure that the drugs are available, but what matters to them is who spoon fed the child.. Moving on..
Landlord problem has always been resolved with "My Husband is not at home"
NEPA problem also ends same way..
Community bills also hang around the Husband..
Even levies of Nzuko Umunwanyi dikwu na isi Nwoke, little wonder in 100 Families of marriage that has lasted 50 years, 95% of the Men are dead, buried and forgotten, while the women are well taking care of by the Children, same Children the man died trying to provide for, but if the man survived long enough to see grand Child, the only thing he benefits from such is Bottle of Hot Drink, while the wife gets the best of Medicare and supplements, with Omugo and brand new clothing and you hear some kids, especially Umuazi INDOMIE Generation saying my mother suffered for me, if not for her,,,,,,,, they are blinded by artificial effect and not reality, for majority of the things the mother provided comes from the man starting from the making of the baby to the raising.
Father's, do not worry about not being celebrated by our children and spouse, it is part of our nature.
OK, today check how many children that will buy a present for the Father..
Check how many Wives that will buy gift for the Husband or the Father today, many of them will even ask the man to bring the money that will be used to cook on a father's day, the same man that brought the money used to celebrate Mothering Sunday and has been bringing money for every other day..
The question is.. What have they done for the Father's?.
Mention..
Just one thing the women or children have done for the fathers..
I remember last Mothering Sunday, NDI Nne did not even give Ndi NNA a Bowl of Rice or thanks, but that has been our lives..
After all when did Father's started Father's Day?
In this 2019 Father's Day, I pray that God will help the Father's and also put in the minds of the Family to start seeing that Father's are the silent Propeller, the Rock of Gibraltar that held the foundation.
That Father's should be celebrated not to be remembered as Spare Tyre which comes handy when the Tyre is deflated.
Happy Father's day once again.
Mazi Odera POg JP.
No comments:
Post a Comment