Getting Married without Theatrics, written by Mkpisi Ndi Egede.

Many marriages ends today before it even get started ,many Male and Female are just having orgy and mistake same for marriage.

Girls think that getting pregnant and birth a baby makes her a mother ,a fallacy from Devils Pot.

Boys think, making a girl pregnant makes him a father ,which is fatigue brain idea.

You see two young or infants dotting on each other ,wham the girl will ask him "Where is this relationship heading to ?" A silly and dumb question,in her mind ,the boy owe her marriage,as if she is doing him favor .

The boy on the other hand may plan suprise engagement to a Girl and if she said No ,the boy will start drooling,now hear me ..

Marriage is far different from Boy Friend and Girl friend,if a boy wants to marry a girl and was hoping that it will last a life time , first step is .

1) Ask the girl details of her Town , parents, siblings and 

2) Conduct Genotype,blood group ,HIV status, including Gonorrhea history .

That way ,when you got her Towns history ,you start making enquires about her family..

A) If the mother kpaied the father 

B) If the mother born children out of wedluck 

C) If the mother cooks or she is wahala personified 

D) Does the parent live together or they are historic parenting and apology to marriage?

After you have established the hidden facts ,which we call iju ase and the girls family will also make enquires about the Man ,to know 

A) If the Father used the Mother for punching bag

B) If the Father used the wife for get rich quick 

C) if the Father has history or marrying and divorcing 

D) If he is a feather or father to the Children .

When Both spouses must have concluded the enquires and decide if they can tolerate each other ,then the parents will also calculate the odds and Even , that's when it can be called Marriage proposal,which is called ikú Aka na uzó or asking for consent.

Read my lips ,any marriage that passes the right rubrics can never scatter on a little hush ,but those ones you take everything just between the Sexual attraction or Bedmatic prowess,that's what James Hardly chase call EASY COME EASY GO .. it's not marriage but manage.

Marriage is not child's play , it's not union between you and your spouse but union between two families.

Another one ,some of you bypass traditional suffice to marriage ,you see all those traditional rights? You must observe them to the later.

1) You must use Palm Wine for the libation.

2) The Boy must Drink the palm wine,not throwing it away because once you throw it away ,the gods Will think you despise the marriage, they don't think the way we do ,they calculate actions and deem it answers.

3) The Boy will led the girl back to the father , kneel down before him and he bless them,that blessing supercede whatever your pastor will pronounce on the wedding.

The Mother has no role in traditional rights, including praying for the marriage in the open or assembly of the visitors, mother won't be where they negotiate bride price and the boy can't even discuss the Bride price with the wife , it's like secret that surpass her knowledge.

If there's any matter arisen from the marriage,look at it as family matter and both of you should resolve it ..if the girl tell the mother,her mother will start protecting the daughter and if the Boy tells his own mother,the mother will be defending the Son , which brings another round of battle .

The Worst is you take your marriage to social Media,they will kill it kpam kpam ..only two of you can resolve it and be able to make a good family, but if you think you are too big to condensed,it means no marriage can contain you.

To have a good and sound marriage,your Bed must be hearing the moaning from time to time.

I am Dibia ónu ike, Mkpisi Ndi Egede na ede with precision, Minority opinion writer na mpaghara anyi, Ógbantutukó ma mbido Igba afa and I come for peace laden marriages na Alaigbo.