WHY YOUR MARRIAGE FAILED, written by Mkpisi.

I am not just talking to married people,I am also talking to unmarried,as both will get to same place or plague, in a little while ,just come with me ,let's dialogue,it will come in Peace and or piss ,but the most important thing is that ,we should know why our marriages crack, disintegrate and shattered.

Enough of sugar coating advise , let's tell it as it is.

When you met your spouse,you didn't advertise it nor seek counsel to grade it or make it happen,you saw the Man ,he toasted you and you accepted him as he was, and you accepted to date and later marry him,so making him subject of discussion later is a Mistake from you.

There's this street parlance that said "onye raru úra ebulu Egbe ya " ,onye kpó nkata ya nkikara,Ndi agbata Obi ewelu ya kpofue afifa  ( if a Soldier sleeps on Duty, he will loose his Gun...if you call your Basket 🧺 a useless thing,your neighbors will turn it to refuse dump) ,Social Media love pariah, just point them to right direction and they will make you miserable.

Once you got married and both of you Started working to raise a family away from dependants,that's when you started advertising your inadequacies to outsiders, comparing and expecting the unexpected. 

What do you expect in return ? Sympathy or what ?

Do you think your marriage and that of your sister will be the same ?.

Do you know what your sister, mother,friends endure in marriages that made it to last the distance?. Ada,ife agbalu na uzó Erika.

You come into marriage and instead to bond together,you want a Maid who will be cooking,maybe house help who will be doing chores, infact the only thing you are good with is S*X and loitering around like EXPIRED DATA.l,when will you bond with your husband?

In your marriage,you want the best of fashion,to entice who, if I may ask ? 

If what you want is Home then stay married,but if what you want is to show availability to those who seek Bed mates then focus on creating attractions by your Sensual dresses, artificial make up ,fixed hairs and other materials of home breaking.

Also distance self from social Media Menace, it's not healthy for young couples,as what it teaches us more of leaches.

Don't you know that once you drag in attention to cushion your legitimate responsibility as a wife,that there must be divided attention?.

You place a temptation to your spouse and if he fell ,you will cry and after crying you will leave and the person will occupy your position..who loses please?.

Some will say ,I can't share my man with any Woman, but you brought in a woman to seduce your husband and you think you are in charge?. No woman is ugly, don't forget,in absence of Reverend father even catechist will baptize any person. What made you Special is taking care of your Husband,not taking care of his orgy, anybody can do that.

Don't you know that your husband can be distracted by hardworking nature of your house help or maid or Cook ?.

You think you have class right? Well your class is not motherhood but hookup gang ,if you truly know what is class, it's to distinguish between living illusions and living with REALITY.

Which Advise do you think unmarried Lady who is jealous that you are married will offer to you ?.

Can a Blind man lead Team of blind people and they won't end up in ditch?

Which advise do you hope to get from a divorced person, don't you know that misery love company?

Which advise do you expect from somebody who think your Farm is greener (That your marriage is more made that hers?).

Listen my Daughter,if you entered university and nobody discouraged you despite the evil littered on Fields of CITADEL, despite the lecturers demonic suppression, despite all the odds starked against you  .then you must Excel in marriage as that is just another institution.

Hear me ,that words which said "Marriage is not Bed of Roses 🌹,is  hard Truth, especially to the wise but to Buffons,they think everything must come on platter,if you want a good harvest,you just plant and nurture the crops.

If you did not drag equality with your HOD back in university,Why then are you dragging equality with your Husband,whose only dominance is just in title,as every submissive Woman uses the Ego of the Husband as Uli ede (Thickener for Soup).

If you can withstand a naughty landlord and lived long enough with him or her ,why can't you endure somebody who makes you whole ?.

Once you stopped taking your household to social Media crucifixion ,your marriage will last forever, but once you report your marriage to them ,even lesbians and Homosexuals will use it to catch cruiz,but don't forget that once you allow your marriage to serve justice delivered by public opinion,it shall never remain healthy.

Stop reporting your marriage to your Parents,you survived your Boyfriend and Your Husband can serve as Boyfriend as well ,stop running comparison,as what works between me and my wife , cannot work between my best friend and the wife ,so why should we compare?

Whenever you have Children in marriage Just know you have reached the point of no return,if you can open up and allow him to crawl into you long enough to fertilize your egg ,just see it as your purpose in life,do not allow them to cajole you into exiting that marriage and start searching again,what you will get the second time is fairy used Man as you are also used Lady.

You want your marriage to succeed,stop running comparison,stop reporting your family to outsiders none of them love you to that extent,they only love you to extent of "I told you so".

Once you are married,you have only one family..your husband and your children. If you visit your father's house the first question they will ask you is "How is your family?" ,once you left for marriage ,they will give away your room and belongings because they are not expecting you back .

Don't forget your father signed disown on you the day of your wedding,when he signed that ..miss Ifeoma Akataka (My daughter) is now Mrs Ifeoma Nwokeoma (The Husband) ,that's a divine disown.

Just make it work , as that is your own and you are not on transit.

Start behaving like a mother and you will end up as a mother,but once you have one leg in marriage and the other outside Marriage,be rest assured it must crash and for every crash there must be Debris.

Also don't force your Husband to waste Money that should be used to take care of family in festivities,such as throwing a resounding marriage rites and wedding,stop feeding Witches that doesn't have your success in mind . 

Have a simply marriage festivities and have what to fall back upon rather than feeding idjiots in human space.

Stay quiet and behave well ,so you can enjoy your old age .

You will say your husband is abusive,sorry but do you just find out? If you do,check if you abuse him by your character,as no sane not even insane person can slap anybody without Provocation.

Guide your act and posterity will make you a model .

It's not a must that everybody will stay married,there must be those called Ótó na aka,you can choose to be one or choose to be a Queen like Esther or be like Queen Vasti .

I am Mazi Odera POg JP, Mkpisi Ndi Egede, Dibia ónu ike adighi agbalu Ekperima afa